Satisfy Your Partner’s Sex Needs for Your Relationship to Last

Bakampa Brian Baryaguma

bakampasenior@gmail.com; www.huntedthinker.blogspot.ug

I was chatting with a female friend of mine, talking about many things. In the course of our discussion, we touched on the ever-sensitive and interesting topic of sex. The girl told me that she doesn’t like men who give a lot of importance to sex. My friend confided in me that she has a boyfriend, whom she loves very much and visits frequently, but every time she visits him, he demands sex. I asked her what she would rather see happen. She said that she would prefer her boyfriend talking to, and conversing with her, without having sex. I wasn’t sure what solution to give her, except give her sympathy. I encouraged her to discuss the matter with her boyfriend. Meanwhile, this discussion got me thinking about men, women, and their intimate relationships.

Sometimes women use sex as a weapon for manipulation, and in some instances, blackmail.

It is true that men and women attach differing importance to sex. For men, sex is a primary need for a successful relationship, while for women, sex is largely a secondary need. In intimate relationships, women derive real satisfaction and contentment from being listened to and heard by their partners, as a sign that they are valued and appreciated. On the other hand, men find true satisfaction from being satisfied sexually by their partners – and the women know it, which is why they often use sex as a weapon for manipulation, and in some instances, blackmail. So, for men, the relationship is stronger if their sex needs are fully satisfied, while for women, the relationship is stronger if their personal interests are heard (even if not necessarily fulfilled). On this note, I advise women who want to be heard and appreciated by their men to endeavor to satisfy them sexually; and the men, to listen to their women attentively, for good quality sex.

 In this video, a woman gives excellent advice to the newly-wed couple that regular sex will build their home, and underscores my point in this article by emphasizing to the bride that sex is, ‘after food for a man,’ which she should endeavor to provide at all times.

Nevertheless, make no mistake: sex is the bedrock of any successful intimate relationship like marriage, or even courtship (if the couple has agreed to have sex before marriage). It’s VERY IMPORTANT for both men and women. In marriage, a good sex life is of paramount importance, for the marriage to thrive. During courtship, with or without sex, there must be hope, or promise of a satisfactory sex life later, after the couple has agreed to formalize its relationship, for a joint lifetime together. The short and long of it all is that sex is the glue that holds the relationship together. Without it, intimacy will be headed for the rocks, any time soon. Sex remains the foundation of any strong and long lasting intimate relationship especially, among young couples, still having a high libido for it.

 A smiling couple, with the woman touching her man's private parts. Only a sexually satisfied woman does that.

But have no illusions. Much as sex is fundamental to the success of any intimate relationship, it’s important to know and understand that it’s not the only consideration. There is a bundle of other things that are vital for the success of relationships. In addition to being good in bed, the partners must also, for instance, be respectful to each other, clean, financially stable, tolerant of one another’s mistakes, forgiving, and so on. The bottom line is that sex isn’t a stand-alone magic wand that automatically makes a relationship successful. It must supported by other positive attributes. Dear reader, I wish you happy, and fruitful relationships.

 A couple enjoying sexual intimacy. It's important for each partner to understand and satisfy the other's emotional needs, for maximum sexual pleasure.